It sucks when everyone else has problems...

Ah, for some reason or other, it seems like so many people around me are having boy problems. And it sucks for them, it sucks for me too, because I want to comfort them, and I want to tell them that everything will be okay. But how do I really know that things are going to be okay? What if things don't turn out okay? What do I tell them after that? I hate seeing them mope around and have their days ruined because of the internal conflict that they're facing with themselves and their problems. I hate seeing their tears and seeing them turn food away because they seem to have lost their appetite. I hate that question that they always ask me after talking about it: "What should I do?" Only because I wish I knew the answer and the right thing to say.

So what do I do for them? I link arms with them and tell them that things are going to be okay. And that maybe just maybe, we have to take the risk and put ourselves out there just to know how it's going to turn out (easier said than done, I know). I tell her that maybe she should get tipsy again one day and ask him over to the dancefloor (I know that's probably not the best advice). I give her a tight hug and tell her that their decision to make that phonecall to the guy with shaky hands was not a wrong decision. I tell her that at the end of it, you have to make the decision for yourself but you just have to be sure about what you're doing. I tell her that I will support all that she chooses to do and remind her that she started off being single, and if she has to end up being single again, she'll get through just fine. I make spaghetti and meatballs, scoop it on a plate for her, and listen to her talk it over. I sit in the living room with her and make sure she gets her homework done.

I tell the three of them that I will be there for them. And that at the moment , this may seem like the biggest problem ever, but soon enough, it'll just be something of the past that you will look back and laugh and learn from. Give it some time....


Did I say the right thing?
Maybe I should just Not give out 'advice' and just give them a hug and lend my ears. And of course a shoulder to cry on if necessary. Hopefully that will make them feel better.

Sigh.